Storyscape With Oluwasegun

The responsibility of raising children has always been a topic of discussion, shaped by cultural values, religious beliefs, and modern-day realities. While parenting is ideally a shared duty between both parents, society often influences how responsibilities are divided. This article explores the dynamics of parenting roles in Nigeria and sheds light on how these roles can be balanced for the benefit of the children. Traditional Parenting Roles in Nigeria In many Nigerian households, traditional customs dictate that the father is the primary provider, while the mother takes on the caregiver role. Fathers are expected to work hard to ensure the financial stability of the home, while mothers focus on nurturing and managing the home front. For example, a father might ensure that school fees, clothing, and food are provided, but the mother often becomes the cornerstone of daily interactions, offering emotional support, teaching values, and maintaining discipline. This division of labor was...

While oral sex, including licking the female genital area, can be pleasurable for some, there are potential negative effects—both physical and psychological—that individuals should consider. Here is a detailed look at these negative aspects: 1. Health Risks a. Transmission of Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs) Oral sex can expose both partners to STIs, which can affect the genital or oral regions. Some notable risks include: Herpes Simplex Virus (HSV): Oral herpes (cold sores) can be transmitted to the genital area or vice versa during oral sex. Human Papillomavirus (HPV): Certain strains of HPV can be transmitted through oral-genital contact and may lead to oral, throat, or cervical cancers over time. Gonorrhea and Chlamydia: These infections can affect the throat if transmitted through oral sex. Syphilis: Syphilis sores can appear in the mouth, increasing the risk of transmission. HIV: While less common, HIV can be transmitted if there are open sores, bleeding gums, or cuts in th...

When tensions arise in a relationship, addressing them with care and consideration is crucial. While financial gestures can play a supportive role, they should be used thoughtfully. In Nigeria, where vibrant cultural and lifestyle influences shape daily life, incorporating local experiences and services can make your efforts more impactful. Here’s how you can use money effectively to calm and support your wife, ensuring that your gestures resonate with genuine understanding and commitment: 1. Plan a Thoughtful Gesture Sometimes, a well-planned surprise can work wonders. Consider using your resources to organize a special outing or experience in one of Nigeria’s beautiful locations. Choose a setting that she would enjoy and that shows you’re attentive to her interests. As in, plan a romantic weekend getaway to the serene Olumo Rock in Abeokuta, Ogun State, or a relaxing retreat at the Whispering Palms Resort in Badagry, Lagos. Such experiences can provide a refreshing break ...

Marriage in Nigeria transcends the union of two individuals; it represents the merging of families, a celebration of cultural heritage, and often, a display of social status. While public ceremonies are central to the celebration, much of the real drama unfolds behind closed doors during the marriage negotiations. These negotiations are governed by unspoken rules steeped in tradition and culture that can dictate the success or failure of a proposed union. The Bride Price: A Symbolic Gesture with Deep Roots One of the most critical aspects of marriage negotiations in Nigeria is the bride price. This practice is not merely a financial transaction but a symbolic act that demonstrates respect, commitment, and the unification of families. However, the process of determining the bride price is delicate, shaped by various factors including the bride's education, family status, and even physical appearance. In many cases, the bride price is a subject of intense negotiation. Fam...

Love is something we all feel, and we show it in different ways. Long ago, people would express love by saying sweet words, doing things to help, giving gifts, spending time together, and holding hands. But now, with our phones and computers, love can be shown in new ways. 1. Saying Sweet Words with Messages In the past, people would say "I love you" face-to-face or write it in a letter. Today, we do this through messages on WhatsApp, Facebook, or Instagram. A simple "Good morning" or "I miss you" in a text message can make someone feel special.  Even sending a heart emoji or a cute sticker can show that you care. But we need to be careful because sometimes, without hearing a voice or seeing a face, messages can be misunderstood. 2. Helping Each Other Through Technology Helping your partner used to mean doing things like cooking, running errands, or fixing something in the house. Now, you can help each other through your...

Sometimes, women can be hard to understand, but it’s not as complicated as it seems.  A woman might block you, delete your number, and say she never wants to hear from you again—but deep down, she still hopes you’ll reach out. It’s just how emotions work sometimes. During an argument, it’s best not to fight back with words. Just listen. Let her express herself, and when she’s calm, show her that you still care. A simple hug and reassurance can mean a lot. A woman who loves you might act a little differently. She could block you on social media but still check up on you through a friend’s account. She might seem tough in front of you, but break down in tears when she’s alone. Her heart is soft, and emotions can be confusing. Even if you have a fight and there’s distance between you in bed, she might still be checking to see if you’re facing her. It’s not just about the space; it’s about wanting to feel close again. The key is to understand that women, like everyone else,...

Love can seem smooth and easy, but in a fast-paced, bustling environment, every relationship has its own hidden struggles. These are the "silent battles" that people often fight inside themselves—fears, worries, or past hurts that they might not talk about. Understanding these struggles is important to keeping a strong and healthy relationship. What Are Silent Battles? Silent battles are the personal issues that people carry inside. These might be feelings of not being good enough, fear of getting hurt, or pain from something that happened a long time ago. Even though these struggles aren’t always obvious, they can affect how someone acts in a relationship. For example, in a busy, high-pressure environment, if someone feels like they aren’t good enough, they might pull away from their partner or always need to hear that they are loved. These feelings usually come from past experiences and can be hard to notice, even for the person feeling them. How Silent Battles ...

Africa's rich cultural diversity offers a unique backdrop for unconventional love stories. From cross-cultural relationships to non-traditional family structures, each region presents its own distinct experiences and challenges. Through my exploration of these dynamics, I’ve gained insights into how love transcends traditional boundaries across different African states. 1. Cross-Cultural Relationships: Bridging African Cultures Overview Cross-cultural relationships within Africa often involve partners from different ethnic groups, languages, or regions. These relationships highlight the continent’s rich cultural tapestry and the challenges and rewards of blending diverse traditions. Navigating Cultural Differences In my journey, I’ve observed how cross-cultural couples across Africa navigate their differences. For example: Northern and Southern Cultures: A couple from Northern Nigeria, where Islamic traditions are prevalent, and another from Southern Nigeria, which may have Christi...

In many homes, disagreements between parents can arise from various sources—financial pressures, extended family issues, or differing beliefs. While these conflicts might seem like a normal part of life, they can have serious consequences for the children who witness them. The Impact on Children Children are often taught to respect and obey their elders, which can make them especially sensitive to the dynamics between their parents. When conflicts arise, children may feel torn between loyalty to their parents and fear of the unknown. This emotional strain can affect their academic performance, mental health, and social interactions. The Cultural Context In many families, it’s common to avoid openly discussing issues, especially in front of children. However, children are perceptive and can sense when something is wrong. They might overhear arguments or notice the tension, even if they aren’t directly involved. In cultures that place a high value on family unity, unresolved ...

Introduction Micro-expressions are brief, involuntary facial expressions that reveal true emotions. While often studied in psychology, their role in marriage, considering cultural ethics, has not been extensively explored. Understanding Micro-Expressions Micro-expressions last only a fraction of a second and can reveal feelings such as happiness, sadness, anger, or surprise. They occur naturally and can be a window into a person's true emotions. Importance in Marriages In many cultures, where non-verbal communication is significant, understanding micro-expressions can enhance marital communication and emotional connection. It allows partners to detect unspoken feelings and respond with empathy and understanding, respecting cultural norms of subtlety and respect. How to Recognize Micro-Expressions 1. Observation Skills -  Pay close attention to your partner’s facial expressions during conversations, especially in social and family settings. 2. Contextual Clues -  Co...