How to Get Your Ex Back and Make them Forgive You

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So you messed up and want your ex back? If the wahala you caused isn't too much, there are moves you fit make to win them back. Just know say you go need to put in the work and stay committed to being a better partner if you really want this to work out.

1. Reflect on Yourself
   Sit down and ask yourself why you mess up. Wetin you do wey spoil things, and why you do am? You get jealousy issues wey make you yarn anyhow? Think well about if you get issues and work on yourself first. E go easier for your ex to forgive you if dem see say you don try change.

2. Think About It Seriously
   You need to reason well whether you wan try get back together. How the relationship be? You dey really happy? More importantly, wetin cause the breakup? If e serious like cheating, think well if na this person you really want.

3. Fix Yourself Up
   Wipe your tears and start to dey proactive if you want your ex back. Maintain yourself, look good, dey healthy, and always present yourself well. E go boost your confidence and show your ex wetin dem dey miss.

4. If the Breakup No Be Today, Send Message
   Make you no just dey call or show face for their place anyhow. Send message first, give your ex small time to think if dem go reply. If after some tries dem no respond, e fit mean say dem no dey interested.

5. Admit Your Mistakes
   Accept wetin you do wey spoil things. Own up to your mistakes, let your ex know say you sabi wetin you do wrong. Admission na key to make things work again.

6. Give an Honest Apology
   Sit down with your ex, talk am from your heart. If you really want them back, show say you sorry well well. Make dem know how you dey regret your actions and how e hurt them.

7. Explain Why You Want to Get Back Together
   Make sure say your ex know say you ready to change. Talk about your mistakes and explain how you go take fix things. If you think say dem too need to change, na this time be that to discuss am.

8. Give Them Time to Cool Down
   No dey rush to dey call or dey send messages anyhow. Give your ex space make dem fit think well about your apology. Patience na key, allow them to come back to you.

9. Keep Calm During Discussions
   Try maintain your cool when una dey discuss your relationship. Even if your ex dey bring up other issues, listen well to wetin dem talk. Try understand their concerns and find way to settle am.

10. Put Yourself in Their Shoes
    Try put yourself for their position. How you go feel if dem treat you the way you treat them? E fit help you understand their feelings.

11. Answer Their Questions
    Allow them ask questions about wetin happen and make sure you give them honest answers. Dem get right to know how your actions affect them.

12. Make Sure You’re Listening
    Pay attention when your ex dey talk. Listen well to wetin dem dey yarn and observe their body language. E go help you understand their feelings.

13. Ask What They Need to Consider Getting Back Together
    If dem no sure about reconciling, ask wetin dem need from you to consider am. Make sure say their requests make sense and something wey you fit do.

14. Discuss Your Intentions
    Talk seriously about wetin you want for the relationship. Make your intentions clear and dey open to any reaction from your ex.

15. Both of You Need to Want It
    Make sure say both of una dey ready to make the relationship work. If one person no dey put effort, e no go work.

16. Ask Your Ex Out Over the Phone
    When una don dey chat regularly again, call your ex ask them make una hang out, even if na as friends. Keep am casual and no go for romantic settings from the start.

17. Treat the Relationship as Brand New
    Forget all the past wahala. No bring up old mistakes if you really want things to work out this time.

18. Show Them How Sorry You Are
    Action speak pass talk. Show your ex say you don change through your actions, no be just talk.

19. Take It Slow
    Even though una don date before, no rush am. Treat am like say na new relationship and take your time to know each other again.

20. Let Go of the Past
    If you want make this work, no hold on to old mistakes. Forget the past and move on.

21. Create Boundaries
    Set boundaries to avoid the kind issues wey cause the breakup. Find common ground where una fit compromise.

22. Learn How to Communicate
    Improve your communication skills. Many relationship problems dey start from bad communication.

23. Focus on Intimacy
    Reconnect on all levels – emotionally, physically, and not just sexually.

24. Always Be Honest
    No hide anything from your partner. If you no fit dey honest, maybe this relationship no be for you.

25. Reconnect with Your Ex’s Friends
    Try reach out to their friends and family. Show dem say you don change for better.

26. Reminisce About the Good Times
    Bring up old, happy memories make your ex remember the good times una share together.

27. Show Your Ex How Much You’ve Changed
    Highlight the positive changes wey you don make. E fit help your ex see say giving you second chance fit no bad idea.

28. Woo Your Ex Again
    Show those qualities wey make your ex fall for you. Relive the memories and show am say you still be that person wey dem love.

29. Emphasize Why You Want to Get Back Together
    Make your intentions clear. Explain why you want make una reconcile and how life go better for both of una.

30. Show Them You Are Worth Loving Again
    Take care of yourself well – body, mind, and spirit. No one want to dey with person wey no love themselves.

31. Consider Commitment
    If commitment be issue before, show your ex say you ready to commit now. E fit make dem change their mind about getting back together.

32. Be Patient
    Building back your relationship go take time. Patience na key, work on the issues wey cause the breakup.

33. Accept That They Might Not Want You Back
    Prepare yourself say your ex fit no want make una reconcile. If e happens like that, accept am and focus on moving forward with your life.

This guide fit help you navigate through the wahala of getting back with your ex, but remember say every relationship different, and e no fit work for everybody.

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