How to Share Emotional Labor in Nigerian Marriages: Simple Solutions

-
Introduction

In Nigerian marriages, taking care of everyone’s feelings and making sure the home runs smoothly is called emotional labor. This often includes remembering important dates, planning family events, and keeping peace in the family. When one person, usually the woman, does most of this work, it can cause problems. Here’s how to solve this issue using our rich Nigerian cultural heritage.

What is Emotional Labor?

How to Share Emotional Labor in Nigerian Marriages: Simple Solutions
Emotional labor includes tasks like:
- Remembering birthdays, anniversaries, and traditional events.
- Organizing family events like weddings, funerals, and cultural ceremonies.
- Ensuring children are happy, respectful, and doing well in school.
- Maintaining good relationships with extended family and in-laws.
- Resolving arguments and keeping everyone happy and united.

Problems Caused by Unequal Emotional Labor

When one person does most of the emotional labor, it can lead to:
- Resentment and frustration: The person may feel tired and unappreciated.
- Health issues: Constant stress can cause anxiety and illness.
- Marital issues: The couple may feel disconnected and unhappy.

Steps to Share Emotional Labor Using Nigerian Culture

1. Recognize and Appreciate
   - In our culture, showing respect and appreciation is important. Husbands and family members should notice and thank the person doing emotional labor, often the wife.

2. Cultural Change
   - Understand that emotional tasks are not just a woman’s job. Our culture values teamwork, so both men and women should share these responsibilities.

3. Communicate Openly
   - In many Nigerian cultures, family meetings are common. Use these meetings to talk about responsibilities. Discuss who does what and try to share tasks more fairly.

4. Share the Load
   - Husbands can help by:
     - Planning traditional events and remembering important dates.
     - Taking care of the children’s needs, including teaching them cultural values.
     - Maintaining good relationships with family and friends.
     - Resolving family arguments together, as our elders teach us.

5. Seek Support
   - If needed, talk to elders, community leaders, or join a support group to find better ways to manage emotional labor. Our culture respects the wisdom of elders and community support.

Conclusion

Emotional labor is important but often invisible work in a marriage. By recognizing and sharing this work, Nigerian couples can build stronger, happier relationships. Using our cultural heritage of respect, teamwork, and community support can help balance emotional labor, leading to a more harmonious family life.

Comments

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

"I Turned in a Fly to follow my husband to the Interview to make sure he fails"

-
Image
I never thought I’d find myself here, sitting across from you, baring my soul like this. But I can’t keep it inside anymore. The weight of what I’ve done is crushing me, and I need to confess. Maybe then, I can find a way to make things right if that’s even possible. Chijioke, my husband, he’s a good man. A kind, hopeful man who has always believed that if he just kept trying, if he just held on, things would get better. For 15 years, he’s worked tirelessly, trying to pull us out of poverty, always thinking the next opportunity would be the one to change our lives. But what he never knew, what I’ve kept hidden from him all this time, is that I’ve been the reason for our misery. I’m the one who’s kept us trapped in this cycle of poverty and despair. You see, I come from a line of women with dark powers witches. For years, I buried that part of me, tried to live a normal life. But as the years went on and our struggles seemed endless, I began to resent Chijioke. His optimism,...
Read more

What's the Right Age to Start Teaching Sex Education in the Digital Era?

-
Image
Raising children in Nigeria today comes with the unique challenge of balancing traditional values with modern realities. One of the most sensitive yet essential topics we must address is sex education. With the pervasive influence of the internet and social media, Nigerian parents must be proactive in guiding their children through this critical aspect of their development. But when should you start, and how can you approach it in a way that resonates with our culture and the specific environment where your family lives? Starting Early: Building the Foundation (Ages 4-5) In places like Surulere, Lagos, or Garki, Abuja, discussing sex education with young children might seem uncomfortable. However, starting early around ages 4 to 5 is crucial. At this age, children are naturally curious about their bodies. Instead of avoiding these conversations, use them as opportunities to teach. Begin by teaching your child the proper names for their body parts. While it may feel awkward ...
Read more

Follow These Steps To Fabric Guide Your Uniforms

-
Image
One of the most fundamental elements to consider while the choice of a uniform is the texture quality. With regards to garbs, it's clearly not insightful to make due with an unsatisfactory quality texture since you don't simply believe that the uniform should look great however ought to likewise feel better while wearing it. Whether it is a school uniform, or a corporate uniform or modern uniform, the texture quality makes the biggest difference, thus, to keep away from any misstep in choosing a uniform texture that provides food your necessities, you ought to make certain of what to search for in the textures. This texture guide discusses a portion of the center properties that you ought to think about in a uniform. The properties to search for in the uniform textures: Breathability Textures that are breathable work the best for outfits as they decrease the perspiration and deal with the dampness of your body. Going for explicitly a breathable texture is a savvy pick with rega...
Read more

How To Handle Tough Customers

-
Image
Successful retailers don't just sell products. Today, quality customer service may be what differentiates a company from its rivals. Retailers with poor customer service risk losing revenues, profits, and even going out of business. But retail pros know that they're going to be dealing with angry customers, the very customers who make offering high-quality service difficult. Here are a few different types of angry customers and how to deal with them as a customer service representative. Types of difficult customers Difficult customers come in several varieties, including:     Angry     Impatient     Intimidating     Talkative     Demanding     Indecisive Dealing with them professionally First, realize you can't control anyone else's behavior. You have control only over your own actions. But you can influence how customers respond to you to some degree. Dealing with angry customers: When a custom...
Read more

10 Tips On How To Merchandise Your Store By Youself

-
Image
One of the major aims of Visual Merchandising is to ensure merchandises are moving out of the store being purchased by customers. Are you looking to learn how to create merchandising displays that draw your shopper's interest and sell more merchandise? Do you feel you don't know how to organize merchandise effectively? Does the front of your store resemble a yard sale more than a going retail space? Are you looking for the do's and don'ts of inventory management? Follow me as I take you through the 10 process on how you can merchandise your store: 😊 1. Change your displays monthly .  Holidays and seasons only last so long, and promotional goods have a short shelf life. Feature new arrivals in your store layout first. If you ordered product meant to go together, keep it together. You don’t want its first appearance to be diluted. Later, the few items that may be left can be grouped with new arrivals to give them a new look. If you ordered red Valentine candl...
Read more

Jude Engees Okoye and Ify Okoye Celebrate 10th Wedding Anniversary with Heartfelt Reflections and Anniversary Shoot

-
Image
Credit: Ify Okoye/Instagram Jude Engees Okoye and his wife, beauty queen Ify Okoye, celebrate their 10th wedding anniversary today. They got engaged in 2014 on Jude’s birthday, April 24th, then married three months later in July. The couple have three beautiful children: Emma, Eleanor, and Ethan. For those unfamiliar, Jude is the older brother of the popular music duo P-Square (Peter and Paul Okoye). Taking to Instagram, a happy Ify shared, “10 years ago, we made the best decision of our lives. Our love has only grown stronger as we’ve journeyed through highs and lows, and now, we’re celebrating a decade of shared dreams, endless laughter, and unwavering support. Here’s to the next chapter of our love story, forever and always. ❤️” See more photos from their anniversary shoot on her Instagram handle @ifyokoye/instagram
Read more

11 Essential skills you need for Merchandising Jobs

-
Image
Are you considering a career in retail? Merchandising is definitely an aspect you could consider. Wikipedia defines merchandising as the activity of promoting the sale of goods, especially by their presentation in retail outlets. Take note that this might not be everyone’s cup of tea, there are essential skills you need for merchandising jobs. 1. Good and healthy communication: Paying full attention to what people are saying and taking time to understand the points they make is crucial in merchandising. Asking appropriate questions in order to get feedback from people (while trying not to interrupt them) is also important. Communicating your findings and other information effectively verbally and in writing is also essential. 2. Time Management: Managing your time correctly so everything that you need to do gets done is very important. Like in many professions, you’ll be required to meet deadlines. 3. Judgment and Decision Making: Making decisions based on relative cost and benefits o...
Read more

"My wife placed me on N200k salary to be her husband for 8 years, but the contract has now expired"

-
Image
The 36-year-old narrated how his wife, Cynthia, approached him and asked if he could act as her husband for eight years and offered to be paying him N200k salary throughout said period. According to him, his wife’s mother was on her neck to get married hence her reason for making such request of him. The man then accepted the deal, which placed on a salary of 200k with strict conditions he must meet throughout their marriage, like never to cheat on her, to also take care of all the house activities. Upon completing the 8 years, she said she would give him N5million but he must never come to claim the children after they must have divorced. He added that the children have grown big, three girls and one boy and he has fallen in love with the woman and he can’t bear to let go with the contract marriage coming to an end and despite the agreement they had in the past. Read what he said: ‘ ‘I was 36 years when I got this offer from a lady. She said she needed a guy that will be her husband f...
Read more

How to Manage Vendor Relationships Effectively in Nigeria's Current Economy

-
Image
Nigeria's current economic situation is challenging. The economy faces issues like currency fluctuations, inflation, and supply chain disruptions. These problems can affect businesses and their relationships with suppliers. Here’s a simple guide to managing vendor relationships effectively in this tough economic climate. 1. Communicate Clearly - For instance, a shop in Lagos uses WhatsApp to communicate with suppliers. This helps them solve problems quickly and keep everyone informed. 2. Set Clear Agreements - For example, a building company in Abuja writes detailed agreements with their suppliers. This helps avoid misunderstandings and ensures both parties know their responsibilities. 3. Work Together - For example, a tech startup in Port Harcourt includes their software suppliers in planning meetings. This helps them work together to solve problems and create better products. 4. Pay on Time - For instance, a fashion shop in Lagos uses an automated system to pay their ...
Read more

How to Apply IRIS in Shelf Management and Sales

-
Image
In today’s retail world, shelf management plays a critical role in driving store performance. The look and feel of your shelves can make or break the shopping experience, influencing customer satisfaction, store perception, and ultimately, sales. One powerful approach that can revolutionize this area is what we call IRIS: Immediate Replacement of Item Sold. This concept ensures that products are restocked on the shelf immediately after being sold, maintaining the store’s visual appeal and ensuring product availability at all times. What is IRIS? IRIS is a shelf management strategy that emphasizes the real-time restocking of products the moment an item is sold. The idea is simple but highly effective: when a product is purchased, its absence is immediately addressed by replenishing it on the shelf. This ensures that customers always encounter fully stocked shelves, boosting the likelihood of making a purchase and creating a seamless shopping experience. Rather than waiting ...
Read more